To marry or not to marry?

I have had a number of weddings this summer with couples that have been living together for a number of years. In my curiousity I love to ask “why are you choosing to get married now?”

The answers ranged from; she wants it, to it just the right thing to do, and now is the right time to marry in our lives.

A few years back I married a couple who had been together for 16 years. I was impressed with the thoughtfulness they had put into being married now. Their oldest child was 15 and they had two other children. Their reason, they did love one another and some things needed to be put in order. For them they felt that their marriage would communicate to their children their commitment and love by exchanging their vows.

Children remember love and what it is like to grow up in a home with a loving mom and dad. Love actually forms who they are. It gives them and understanding of values, commitment, hope and love. I appreciated this couples desire to be married primarily for the reason of wanted to communicate their love for one another to their children.

Whatever reason you have that brings you to the point of marrying I wish you the best as you move into this next stage of your life. The bottom line is it is about love. Love is what brings us together and remember it is love that holds us together.

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